Monday, October 29, 2018

10 Gentle Parenting Lessons from the Bible

A lot of people don't think Christians can be gentle parents. I've seen this argument from Christians and non Christians who believe the two lifestyles are polar opposites. They point to verses in the Bible they see as instruction to punish a child, even physically. But I'm teaming up with Rachel from Sweet Simple Living to share with you ten examples in the Bible that actually promote gentle parenting. I have five of those examples, and then at the end of this post, I'll link to Rachel's five examples. You guuuuys, please check out her blog! Her blog's aesthetic is to die for and she blogs about gentle parenting, natural living, minimalism, and homebirths.

Let's jump in, momma.







1. That time when boy Jesus didn't obey his parents...
"Every year Jesus’ parents went to Jerusalem for the Festival of the Passover. 42 When he was twelve years old, they went up to the festival, according to the custom. 43 After the festival was over, while his parents were returning home, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem, but they were unaware of it. 44 Thinking he was in their company, they traveled on for a day. Then they began looking for him among their relatives and friends. 45 When they did not find him, they went back to Jerusalem to look for him. 46 After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. 47 Everyone who heard him was amazed at his understanding and his answers. 48 When his parents saw him, they were astonished. His mother said to him, 'Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.'

49 'Why were you searching for me?' he asked. 'Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?'[a] 50 But they did not understand what he was saying to them.

51 Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. 52 And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man." -Luke 2:41-52
I've noticed that children and youth church curriculum looooove to use this story to point out that Jesus obeyed his parents so you should too. But, um, awkward...because yeah, sure, Jesus eventually obeyed his parents, but did you also notice that before he obeyed them, he...um...didn't? Yeeaahhh. Now I'm going to say a couple things that might make your head spin, but please stay with me.

Kids have their own passions, interests, agendas, and callings separate from their parents--at any age. And here's what I hope doesn't make you run, but sometimes parents are wrong. Gulp. But it's true! Think back to when you were a kid, and your parents made a decision on your behalf that went against your heart or your spirit. If a child has a calling, like Jesus was called to learn from the teachers in that temple, what happens if their parents override that with an iron fist, my-way-our-the-highway-as-long-as-you're-in-my-house attitude. Imagine if they kept such a tight reign on Jesus that he was never allowed to follow what was right for him? He needed to know the word of God. His knowledge of God's word was what later helped him resist the devil's temptations. And his faith took him through the darkest days of his life as he faced the cross.

Now I'm not saying Mary and Joseph shouldn't have been upset. I mean, he stayed behind without even telling them and worried them sick. It ways DAYS before they found him. I can only imagine the horrors going through their heads. "My child! I lost my child?? I lost the SAVIOR OF THE WORLD!?" So yeah, they had a right to be upset. He could have handled it differently and been up front about his plans.

But do you see how they reacted? They asked him, "How could you do this? You worried us!" They didn't spank him. They didn't take away his favorite...sandals? They didn't put him in time out or ground him from his friends. Instead, they shared their feelings and opened up dialogue that invited Jesus to explain himself. They didn't understand his explanation, probably because they were still feeling upset and didn't share his priorities or perspective of the situation. But they heard him out. Then Jesus obeyed and went with them.

And that's what gentle parenting is all about. It's a two-way relationship that focuses on respecting each other, opening communication, hearing each other out, and being willing to meet each other in those tough spots where our ideas and agendas don't match up. Instead of punishment for a wrong, there's guidance, empathy, and openness. It's easy to tell that Mary, Joseph, and Jesus valued trust and freedom in their family dynamic since Jesus was allowed to roam so freely that it took them that long to even notice he was gone. That trust carries over even when our children make mistakes or do things differently than we want them to do. We trust our kids to make their mistakes and make their own choices, and we're there with open arms (even if we're upset) when it happens.


(Whew, that was a long example. But I'm glad you've made it this far. If you need to come back to read the rest later, you could save this on Pinterest. Or if you want to keep reading, the rest are much shorter, I promise.)





2. When Jesus didn't see children as an interruption. 


"13 Then people brought little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked them.

14 Jesus said, 'Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.'” -Matthew 19:14

Before these verses, Jesus was talking with the adults about very adult things like marriage, divorce, and living life intentionally single. I think we've all been to playdates with our friends where us moms are talking about these exact things or other adults topics, and then the kids enter stage and demand our attention. Sometimes, especially for stay-at-home-moms, adult conversations are rare and precious, so it's easy to feel like our kids are an interruption. We all get it. And the Pharisees felt the same way because they started to tell the kids to buzz off. But Jesus stopped them and said, "No way, the kids are more than welcome! They're my people." (Paraphrased, of course. ) In Christian parenting and mainstream parenting, I see a trend of talking about kids like they're annoying or something to escape, and it's cultural accepted and even "funny" to roll our eyes when kids want to be included. But in gentle parenting, we strive to be like Jesus here, to see kids as equals. To invite them into our world just as much as we ask to be a part of theirs. Of course, not every adult conversation is suitable for kids' ears, and I'm not saying we should let them into every sensitive conversation. But when they come to us, even when it's inconvenient for us, we can follow Jesus' example, and treat them with respect and love. 


3. The part of the Bible where we're told not to provoke our kids to anger. 

"Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord." -Ephesians 6:4
I could make an entire blog post just on this verse, but I'll keep to a few short points for now because you're already a champ for reading this far! First of all, I want to list a few things that would provoke a child to anger: talking down to them, yelling at them, taking away privileges and possessions, threatening or carrying out a physical punishment, not listening to their side of things...just a few. Do you know how I know these things would provoke anger? Imagine your spouse doing any one of these things to you in an attempt to modify your behavior. Or remember what it was like when you were a kid. These acts are controlling and belittling. And the simple fact is, they're not respectful. When people feel disrespected, belittled, and controlled, they feel angry. So boom: doing these things equals provoking your children to anger. So what on earth are we supposed to do instead?? That's another long blog post for another day! But the short and sweet version is, just like Mary and Joseph did with boy Jesus, discipline and instruction. To discipline simply means to teach. And it doesn't take threats and controlling behavior to teach, does it? In the same way you teach your child to make pancakes, you can teach them that when they do XYZ, it makes you feel ABC because you just want to keep them safe from 123. And if you don't have a good reason for stopping them from doing XYZ, could you consider letting go of your control and giving your child the opportunity to learn through the experience? Children (and anyone of any age!) respond better to instruction when they feel heard, supported, and respected.






4. The verse that gives us deeper insight if you look a second time.
 

"Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6
At first glance, this verse is basically a repeat of my point number three. Train, teach, instruct...whatever translation you use, not one of them says "punish." Just teach. Guide. Support and be with them as they learn. And then when they're old, they won't depart from it. Ahhhh, obedience! WRONG. Obedience is not the goal. And childhood obedience is not the promise here. The promise here is that when they're old, they won't depart. So many reasons...good, valid reasons. Everyone will stray a little bit. Didn't you? I'm not saying straying is right or holy or whatever, I'm just saying it's normal, and it's not the end of the world. It's a part of life because sometimes it takes making mistakes to see for ourselves that what we were told was true. Gentle parenting is about having realistic and fair expectations. There's the whole impulse control thing that is just plain science! Impulse control doesn't start to develop until around three years old and won't fully develop until the twenties. So, dude, that's a LOT of years in between there when the brain is going, "Sure, that's the right thing to do, but this other way looks shiny and interesting and I think I'll try that instead." Blame the brain. But if you're going to blame the brain, maybe take it up with the one who created the brain. Just saying. So your kids won't follow your instructions perfectly now. But there will come a time when they'll see that you were right or at least had good intentions (because remember...parents can be wrong sometimes). And when that time comes, I hope you nurtured your relationship above correction so they feel comfortable coming to you, like the prodigal son.


5. When the Bible reminds us we were all kids at some point.
"1 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I [a]became a man, I did away with childish things." -1 Corinthians 13:11
A lot of mainstream parenting treats normal, healthy childhood behaviors like a crime. Stop crying! Don't whine! Quit asking me over and over! Be good! But childhood emotions and (unpleasant for us) behaviors are not crimes. The big emotions and tough behaviors can be triggering for us because a lot of us grew up being told the behaviors were bad, so it's wired in us to react that way now as parents. But you can retrain yourself. Look up child psychology and read about what's normal, appropriate, and healthy. You'd be surprised. And then remember back to when you were a child...heartbroken over something that felt so big and important to you. Remember when your mom or dad said, "You're crying over nothing, stop it!" Remember how small that made you feel? Ouch. Whew. Now breathe, heal from it, let yourself grow, and give your kids more grace through that stuff. It's all a part of being a child, and one day, they'll grow out of it. But in the meantime, they need to know that you care and you love them no matter what.

I hope you've enjoyed these five examples of gentle parenting from the Bible. Now please please please head over to Sweet Simple Living to see Rachel's five examples of gentle parenting from the Bible! You and your kids will be seriously blessed by her post. And please, I want to hear your thoughts! Do you have questions? Want to hear more about something, see some examples, talk things out, or tell my why you agree or disagree? It's all welcome. We're each walking this parenting gig together and learning as we go.
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Related posts from Sweet Simple Living, and Her Arms Are Strong:

Sweet Simple Living:
6 Reasons to Reconsider Spanking

Review of "Jesus the Gentle Parent" by L.R. Knost

Her Arms Are Strong:
This is What Gentle Parenting Shows My Child

A Mom's Version of 1 Corinthians 13:1-7


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Tuesday, October 16, 2018

20 Top-Rated Gifts for Your Animal-Loving Toddler


If you're looking at this list, I know two things: your toddler loves animals as much as mine does, and you need help because shopping can be super overwhelming. Here are the highest reviewed animal gifts appropriate for your animal-loving toddler! I only added gifts to this list that have a five-star rating on Amazon because I want only the best for you and your kiddos. These gifts range from toys to d├ęcor to books. There's something on this list for every child. And with prices ranging from $6 to $115, there's something for every budget too.



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National Geographic Animal Encyclopedia


My toddler's animal encyclopedia is one of his most beloved books. We cozy up together and page through the book, reading interesting facts about the animals even I didn't know. You'll have fun learning together too.

Lego Duplo, My First Animal Brick Box
With two toddler favorites in one--animals and trains--this gift will be a huge hit and offer fun for a long time. There's nothing worse than buying a toy your kid will forget about in a week, but that's not the case with Duplo Legos. You can add to the collection over time, and each set will build (literally) off each other.



4-Pack Prextex Dinosaur Plushies
Dinosaurs totally count as animals, even if they are extinct. This is a great bundle to give one kiddo or a seriously good deal if you're shopping for multiple kids and want to split them up. Either way, these are super cute. And dinos are always in.



Ericoo Animal Toys Set
My toddler has a whole collection of animals toys, and they're his favorite thing to play with. These adorable animals, made of non toxic plastic, will help your toddler imagine and explore the animal kingdom. I always feel great about buying my kiddo more animals since they can easily be played with together, used for story times, and will stay relevant for a long time. 



Hugaroo Weighted Lap Pad Dog
This cuddly plushie is an alternative to the weighted blanket. Not only a toy, this dog is a comfort and calming tool for children with autism or sensory disorders.



Klutz Animal Paper Lanterns
You can give your child the gift of the animal kingdom right in their bedroom with these crafty animal paper lanterns. Putting this together will be a fun project for you and your little one to do together. Imagine these hanging over a bed or a little reading or play nook. Adorbs.



UANDME Forest Animal Toys
Yes, another plastic toy animal set, but like I said, this is my son's favorite collection, and who can resist forest animals?



Labebe Giraffe Rocker with Wheels
This modern take on the rocking horse can transform from a rocker to a wheeler so your child can actually move forward. Two kinds of movement, endless fun. And this soft cutie sings!



My First Animals Tabbed Board Book
If your tot is just entering the world of animals, they'll fall even deeper in love once they hold this durable book in their own hands and marvel at the different animals. You can explore with them and help them learn names and sounds.





Melissa & Doug Giant Giraffe
This giant giraffe is over 4ft tall and will tower over your tot, bringing an excitement to their play. This is a piece that will really bring a play space or bedroom together for a super trendy look too.



Wooden Animals Jigsaw Puzzles
This pack of 6 puzzles will help your child learn problem solving and critical thinking. Caterpillar, fish, seal, crab, duck, and bumblebee.



Kids Explorer Kit for Toddlers
Your little explorer can strap on their explorer gear, load up mini animals, and embark into nature on a mission to find real life animals. My little man has an adventure vest that we add cool patches to, so that's something you could do with this too.



My First Toddler Coloring Book
With this coloring book full of your kiddo's favorite animals, they'll learn colors, shapes, numbers, and more.



Personalized Organic Cotton Watercolor Pillow
Just imagine your little one cuddled up on this gorgeous pillow with their very own name printed on it. And a wonderful bonus is that it's organic, so your sweetie will slumber toxin-free.

Animal Train and Hot Air Balloon Wall Decals
Surprise your kiddo with an updated bedroom! These whimsical wall decals will brighten their walls and spur imagination. You can cuddle together and create stories...where are all those animals going on their train and hot air balloons?



Waterproof Toddler Fox Backpack
Whether your toddler is in preschool, visiting the library, or packing for a road trip, they'll adore this gender-neutral fox backpack. And it's waterproof, so when those inevitable spills happen, cleanup will be easy.



Cotton Canvas Animal Teepee
This teepee would make the best little reading nook, nap nook, or outdoor play accessory. It's whimsy is unmatched.



Unisex Fleece Monkey Bathrobe
Your little one won't be able to stop monkeying around in their new favorite bathrobe! (Sorry, not sorry for the bad pun.) But really, imagine your animal-loving tot coming out of the bath and wrapping up in this cozy, cool robe. Too cute!

Animal Action Cards
Introduce your kiddo to the fun of family game nights with these animal action cards. The whole family will have a hoot pretending to be different animals. Really, this game is a double gift because you're also giving the gifts of quality time and memories.



Skip Hop Zoo Bath Stack and Pour Bucket Rinse Cups
Toddlers loooove to splash and pour. They'll have so much fun in the bath or outside with these animal buckets for all their splashing and pouring needs.



If you decide to go with one of these animal gifts for your toddler, I'd love to know! Or if you found something else really cool, share that with me too. Either way, happy shopping. And relax, momma--your little one will love whatever you give them.

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Tuesday, July 3, 2018

The Shampoo Alternative for When Your Toddler Refuses Hair Washing

I'm not the only mom in the world who has a strong-willed toddler when it comes to bathtime and washing hair. I know there are some frustrated mommas out there who can relate and who are looking for a solution that keeps their child's hair clean but still respects their child's no-hair-washing boundary. There are some hygiene things we just have to get done for the well-being of our kiddos, but I prefer to do these things as peacefully and respectfully as possible. Afterall, a big goal is to raise children with body autonomy, right? We don't want to undermine our message of body autonomy by ignoring our children's boundaries.

So what can you do when you've tried all the hair-washing tricks and nothing works?

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Ditch conventional hair washing. Instead, before bathtime, rub some arrowroot powder in your child's hair. It doesn't take much! Arrowroot powder will soak up excess oil. Then while your child plays in the bath, just run your wet hands over their hair until their hair is wet but water isn't running down their face. If your kiddo doesn't like their hair wet at all, you can skip this part, but I suggest using a boar bristle brush to brush the arrowroot powder out of their hair so they don't look powdery.

(Note: my child is white. I'm not sure if this will work the same on black hair, so if anyone tries this with black hair, please let me know!)

Plus, this is a win on a whole other level too because it's all-natural and only one ingredient so you can feel good knowing your child isn't soaking up any shady ingredients found in conventional shampoo. 

There you have it! [EDITED TO ADD: This is all I've been using on my own hair too, and my hair feels and looks better than ever.)

My two-year-old hated having his hair washed because he'd always get water and shampoo in his eyes. Bathtime was a struggle and something I avoided for as long as possible (We Americans bath too much anyway, right?), and his hair would get so oily. But since using arrowroot powder, he doesn't fight bathtime, and he comes out of it with beautiful clean hair. 

Do you have any peaceful hair-washing tips? Share with me in the comments or let me know how this trick worked for you. If you found this post helpful, please pin and share it!

Related post: How to Peacefully Get Boogies Out of Your Toddler's Nose





Sunday, June 24, 2018

4 Reasons Breastfeeding with Boundaries Teaches Toddlers Consent

Breastfeeding has turned out to be a fantastic tool for teaching my toddler about body autonomy, boundaries, and consent.

Honestly, it took me two years of breastfeeding to get to the point where I wasn't down with demand feeding. I never expected to feel ambivalent about breastfeeding since I totally loved it from the start. On one hand, I still love it. On the other hand, I NEED SOME SPACE. Since both my toddler and I want to continue breastfeeding, I knew we needed to set boundaries so our breastfeeding relationship could continue to be a mutually positive experience.

Without clear boundaries in place, it's easy for momma to feel like nothing more than a touched out pair of milkies on tap. Resentment builds. And the lack of boundaries isn't healthy for the child either because they need to learn as soon as possible that every person is in charge of their own body. This not only helps children respect other people, but it empowers them and keeps them safe from potential abusers. 

Here are four reasons breastfeeding is the ultimate tool for teaching toddlers consent.


1. "I WANT MILKIES!"

Toddlerhood is an important time for gaining a sense of self and independence. Toddlers suddenly realize they have their own mind, body, and feelings. Mix that with the inability to delay gratification or regulate emotions, and that's why they really really (extra) really want they things they want and aren't afraid to express that with gusto. What an opportunity to gently explain that no matter how much we want something, if it involves another person's body, and that person says no, no means no. Boys and girls both need to learn this important life lesson. I'll say, "I'm happy to share my body with you, but milkies are part of my body, so if I say no, you need to respect that. We can have milkies later."

2. Strong possessive feelings. 

This lesson can be taught with hugs, kisses, personal space, etc. too, but a child who literally grows on the breast feels a special attachment to the breast even to the point of feeling territorial and possessive over them. Because of that strong attachment, the message of respecting boundaries is so much clearer. Empathize with those big feelings, but make a clear boundary. I'll say, "I can see you really want milkies. I understand how hard it is when you can't have what you want. Right now, my boundary is no milkies. It's okay to feel sad about that."  

3. Toddlers form their own boundaries. 

You can use those boundaries to form connections and understanding. For example, my toddler doesn't like it when I brush his hair. So since tangled hair isn't life or death, I let it go as long as possible and I'll say, "You don't want me to brush your hair. That's your boundary. I respect your boundary, so I won't brush your hair." And then later if I need some space from breastfeeding, I'll say, "I don't want to do milkies right now. That's my boundary, and I need you to respect it." See, the language is the same. He can empathize and understand because he's felt the same way even if it's a different boundary. Teach respect by respecting.      

4. Blossoming communication.

Whether your child signs or speaks, communication explodes in the toddler years! There are so many ways to express the want and need for milkies too. For my son, he leans down toward my breast and smacks his lips together like he wants to eat. It's funny and unconventional, but hey...communication is communication. That's his way of asking and waiting for my okay. There are plenty of times he still tries to just yank down my shirt, but I always stop him and say, "You need to ask first before you share my body." Asking permission to share another person's body is consent, and that's something they need to learn and use their whole life.

You don't need to feign boundaries to teach these lessons. If you want to breastfeed on demand, do it. If you want some space, you have the right to your own space. You're a mom who makes precious milkies for your little one; you're not a milk machine. Your breastfeeding relationship is just that...a relationship (and a fantastic teaching tool).

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Monday, April 30, 2018

What Prepping My Son's Snack Reminded Me about Faith

After we got home from grocery shopping yesterday, my 2yo M wanted some of the cucumbers and hummus we'd just bought. He's a cucumbers and hummus fiend and was basically asking for it nonstop since we ran out last time. I was happy to finally give him one of his favorite snacks. But first I had to wash the cucumber.

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"Cucumber!" He got louder and more urgent. "Cucumber!"

"I'm getting you a cucumber, but I have to wash it first," I said.

"CUCUMBER!"

(Thankfully I'm aware that it's not fair to expect him to wait patiently at this age because he hasn't developed the ability to delay gratification yet.)

As I washed the cucumber, I tried to explain and reason with him. "Trust me. You could eat this cucumber right now, or I could wash it and it would be better." (It wasn't organic this time.)

My reasoning didn't help. He whined as I cut it too, but I knew he'd be able to enjoy his snack better if the cucumber were cut into sticks to dip into the hummus. I kept thinking, "If only he could trust that I'm doing the best thing!"


But aren't we so impatient with God sometimes? We see the thing we want, and we want it right now, or we want it to fit into our neat planners and boxes. We get frustrated when things don't happen right away or like we imagined. But God promises He's working everything together for our good! Everything. Even the waiting and the crud and the waiting some more. He washing the cucumber because it'll taste better and nourish your body better. He's cutting your cucumber into little sticks because it's perfect for dipping into the hummus, and He knows how much you love hummus! Preparation takes time. Working everything together takes time. It's hard to trust when we don't understand what God is doing, but that's where faith comes in. Have faith that He's working on your snack and it'll be delicious when He's all done with it.


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Friday, April 6, 2018

Toddler Sensory and Mindfulness with Food


We live in such a busy go-go-go culture. Go to playdates. Go to library events. Go to mommy-and-me classes.

But isn't life more peaceful and enjoyable when we slow down and savor all the little pleasures that make up the mundane? Mindfulness is a practice of slowing down and being present in the moment. Most of us are totally disconnected from this way of life, so using our five senses alongside our toddlers makes perfect mindfulness practice.

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Pick a new fruit you want to try together, or experience a favorite fruit in a new way by engaging all five senses.


Visual
How does the strawberry look on the outside? Red with little dots. Green leaves. Is it shiny or starting to turn dark? What does the inside look like?

Scent
Smell the strawberry. Scratch the surface and smell it again. Can you get a tease of the taste this way?

Sound
When you bite into the strawberry, how does it sound? Is there a crunch, or is it more of a mush? What about as you chew?

Touch
How does the strawberry feels on your fingers? Is the outside different from the inside? When you take a bite, how does the strawberry feel on your teeth and tongue? What about when you swallow?

Taste
Chew with slow diligence. Taste the juice. Notice the way the flavor slips over your tongue and fills your mouth.

This is a simple exercise anyone can enjoy with any food. And food is great for mindfulness beginners because it's already a time when we should be sitting down and connecting. Connect with yourself and your experience, and connect with each other. When we have this connective relationship, we're more appreciative of the beautiful small things, and we're more in tune with what makes or bodies, minds, and spirits light up.


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Friday, March 30, 2018

I'm Not an Instagram-Worthy Mom or Wife

I'm not an instagram-worthy mom or wife.


In this picture, I'm wearing the same comfy shirt I've worn to bed all week, no bra, and my hair is a mess because I slept on it wet. My kitchen is a disaster because I blinked. And the filter is called My-Tiny-Apartment-Kitchen-Has-Florescent-Lights-That-Flicker.

I stopped trying to venture out into the winter wonderland halfway through winter because I just can't be cold anymore. I missed taking my son sledding again, which makes me feel pretty crummy. I'm holding my breath for spring and just shaved my legs for the first time in like two months. And to be honest, I only did it because I could feel the breeze move through my hair as I walked.

My carpet has a squished strawberry in it that's so old it's practically part of the family. Because if I choose to spend my child's short independent play time cleaning up weird food squished in my carpet, there go the dishes again, and I can't breathe. Sigh. My home will never be an instagram-worthy home.

I have days where I don't make sure my tank is full, so I sputter along on fumes and lash out at my family. Instead of getting "the best of me," they get "what's left of me."

But THANK YOU GOD, I don't have to be instagram-worthy. My worth doesn't depend on how I look, how my home looks, on my bad days, my good days, the ways I don't measure up, or even the ways I excel. My worth comes from only one thing: that Jesus loved me so much, He died for me and rose again. Jesus lives and has given me an abundant life! His grace covers everything, and if He walked into my home, He'd look around and say, "Hi, love. What squished strawberry?"

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